Life As It Is

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about why so many people don’t get what they really want in life.  It’s hard to think about because there are so many close friends of mine that fall in to the trap that somebody or something else will solve their problems on a dime.  Like it’s a magic potion you drink and then BAM! you’re fixed.  I’m sorry, but it doesn’t work that way!

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Many of these peers rely on tapes and books to fix their problems.  In my mind, the worst thing to rely on is the other ‘higher up’ people who promised that if you just believe in them, they will make everything right.  They will fix all your problems.  One good example of this is the government!  YOU are the government.  They are there to help you, but you must be willing to act, not simply be acted upon.  Tapes, books, and other people are NOT the answer to your problems — YOU ARE.  What ever happened to each individual taking responsibility for their life, their actions, and their relationships with others?  What ever happened to YOU being YOU and not what everybody else wants you to be?

Don’t get me wrong here…tapes and books are useful to get you looking in the right direction, but YOU are the one that has to take each and every step down that path.  You are the only one that can and will.  If you want life to be different tomorrow, do something about it TODAY, not tomorrow.

Stop Reading/Thinking About It and Just Do It!

Most of my posts start out with something like, “I just happened upon an article that made me think the other day…”  This one is no different!  Sorry!  I know, I need to come up with some original content, but sharing content that’s already out there that has had an impact on my life isn’t so bad either, as long as I add a few comments of my own, right?

I recently read an article entitled, “Stop reading about it and do it.”  It caught my eye because Charissa had once shared with me a quote that has stuck in my mind since.  First, the quote:

You cannot be successful without passion, but passion alone will not make you successful. ~Chelsey Rippy~

So very true!  Passion, enthusiasm and excitement are very necessary to success, but true learning, experience and the actual end result of success comes through doing.  Here’s the article!  It’s not very long, so don’t whine about reading it.  :)

We learn more by doing than by reading.

That’s a simplified statement, of course, because reading teaches us a lot, but it’s in the actual doing of things that we do our real learning. It may be a fairly harmless statement for most of us, but think about this: do you actually put it into practice? How about in your efforts to improve your life?

It’s easy to see how this applies in a school situation: In an article in the Chronicle for Higher Education, studies show that the best way to study for an exam is not to read and re-read, but to put the book down, try to recall what you read, then write it down. Much more effective.

But how about in your everyday life? This isn’t as obvious, but it’s just as effective.

When you want to improve your life in some way — by simplifying, by being more frugal, by starting to exercise or eat healthy, by learning more productive habits, by being a more positive or compassionate person — you are learning a new skill.

And when you learn a new skill, all the reading in the world won’t teach you the skill. You have to learn by doing.

So reading countless self-help articles and books are great — I’ve written a few myself — but remember that it’s only the first step.

You have to put the personal development posts away, get away from the computer or book, and start doing it. Today.

Only in doing it will you actually learn.

Reading does help though: first in helping you to understand what to do, and second in keeping you motivated as you actually do the skill. But it’s not a substitute for doing.

So stop reading this post, and go do what you want to learn to do!

- Leo Babauta, Stop Reading About It and Do It

So what’s the end result to us doing instead of just being passionate about something or reading about it and thinking it’s a good thing to do?  We learn, gain new experiences, and actually grow, instead of rely on a roller coaster of emotion that is bound to have peaks and deep valleys.  When we are doing, there is no time to dream, because we enable ourselves to live the very dreams that we are passionate about.

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